Fucking Ain't Fair, Act Accordingly.

Updated: Oct 11




One of the most frequent criticisms FDS gets from mainstream feminist media is that we're "sex negative" or want to slut-shame and police women's sexuality. Mainly because we've questioned the wisdom of engaging in one night stands and point out the unhealthy dynamics and risks at play in BDSM relationships.


Their criticisms are assigning some kind of weird moral superiority to our motivations we've never claimed to have.


FDS is not in the business of moral judgement, we're in the business of strategy. We look at what kinds of behavior is likely to garner the sex women want with the least amount of consequences and recommend practical paths forward. The first step in this is acknowledging that sexual dynamics between men and women are not often fair.


FDS takes the positions we do because 1) the risks or consequences involved in sex are inherently different between men and women and 2) women ultimately decide what the future generation of people are based on some of our choices now.


We considered the following factors when making our judgments:


  • Men and Women do not carry equal risk of engagement during sex. Our risks as women who engage in sexual encounters with men are always WAY higher than the reverse. Women are more physically susceptible to STDs, some of which can severely effect our fertility and are undetectable in men (such as HPV). We also carry the heavier reproductive risks: unwanted pregnancy, abortion, and negative effects of birth control.

  • Women do not orgasm at the rate and frequency of men. The rewards of sex for women are usually a lot lower than for men. Men orgasm most times they have sex, but this is not the case for straight women who cannot be guaranteed an orgasm in any sexual encounter, either from the lack of skill or lack of care from their partner. We've even asked men on Reddit about this disparity and many will readily admit that they don't feel entitled to giving a woman sexual pleasure if they don't personally see her as girlfriend material.


  • The social consequences for sex are higher for women due to sexism. It’s not fair - but it’s true. If things go south in your little fling-a-ding-ding - you’ll be looked at badly and take most of the blame. *Should* women be judged by this? No. *Will* they be? Probably. The older you get the less you'll probably care what people think, but when in an enclosed environment you can't easily escape (such has high school, or college, or a professional work environment) this can really make for a miserable time. As much as we all like to pretend we're above it, the rumor mill can really effect your self esteem. And as working adults, casual sex can be complicated by potential workplace harassment issues, which if you've been paying attention to #MeToo have resulted in disproportionately high career consequences for women and almost none for men. Is that 20 minutes of mediocre dick worth all that?


  • You will reinforce poor behavior by having sex with men you haven't vetted or made invest. If you've spent any time listening to men, most will admit to being only as moral as what it will take to get them sex. If you don’t hold them to any standards, they will devolve in to the lowest vibrational beings possible. Men value themselves based on the kind of women they can get access to and that may never change. Most men will always forth put the bare minimum effort he can get away with and still get laid. Slanging pussy to fuckboys creates male entitlement and reinforces their sexist worldview by making them believe their strategies of being are effective.

Until we can grow babies in pods, hire affordable robot nannies, find a test AND a cure for HPV in men, free the world of rape and abuse, and physically evolve past sexual dimorphism, it seems women will be bearing these burdens for the forseeable future.


There is a reason why the females are usually the choosier sex - any sexual engagement with males comes with high risk and limited reward. FDS is just pointing that out, which seems to garner continuous pushback from feminists who love to remind us that "Women shouldn't have to be gatekeepers!" and "Women are just as horny as guys are!" 'Kay, sure Sis, but how are you going to force males to gatekeep something that costs them nothing? Waiting for most men to have the foresight and desire to turn down raw sex is a pipe dream. They simply have a lot less to lose than we do and they don’t really care.


And as far as being just as horny as them, um, no the fuck we are not. Male sexuality is different than ours in both wonderful and completely terrifying ways. Male sexuality is why you carry pepper spray and cover your drink at parties, so stop kidding yourself you're going to be able to compete with them in the sexual perversion Olympics because they're the all time undefeated gold medal champions and it's not even close.


Liberal Feminists think that if they "break down these social constructs" they can somehow subvert a fundamental law of nature, which is that Pussy has value, and dick doesn’t, and that males are inherently more motivated for sexual pursuit. Problem is, they're up against about 6 million years of evolution on this one. There are some things that are socially constructed, and there are others that are natural consequences of sexual dimorphism and competing sexual reproductive roles, which we have no power to change. This inherent difference creates unequal power dynamics and unequal consequences.


Reproductive roles were not divided equally between men and women, and this puts women in the position of gatekeeper, which LibFems rail against, but FDS sort of accepts as an inevitable. For all the criticism they have of FDS, I've yet to hear some concrete plan from them on how they're going to actually force men to buy into their worldview on women's sexuality.


LibFems are all talk and wishful thinking, FDS is about that action. Fucking isn't fair, and we act accordingly.


It's time for liberal feminists to grow up and face reality. You can't "argue away" your reproductive role and pretend it doesn't exist. It would be more advantageous to embrace it, and leverage it to your benefit. Trust, if men had any, and I mean, ANY power in the sexual marketplace they would exploit it to its fullest potential; why shouldn't we?

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