Hi lovely ladies. I had a thought provoking date last night and I have two main topics I would like to get your thoughts on.
Backstory: I have been on 3-4 dates with this guy, he made the effort in the beginning to plan dates, took me to the museum, paid for dinners and was a gentleman. He did say to me that due to personal circumstances he's quite broke and 'can we go dutch next time'. I said I don't do dutch but I will pay next time we are out.
Last night, we had wine and I paid. He again said that we can't only hang out at restaurants as that's expensive, even though we've also taken walks together. I am not having sex with him anytime soon but I've been to his house so I got to scoop the cleanliness level. He asked me to be his gf last night and I said it's too early for me.
Issue 1: He lives with his best friend who is a girl. From what he's told me, she's a pickme. I know this is a red flag and I am wondering if I should end things now and cut my losses. I have the tendency to go with the flow and not make decisions until it's high time to do so. What do you think?
Issue 2: This is a more general strategy question. He was quite open about what his friends think about me. So on our 2nd date, I wore a Chanel bag and I was quite excited about it as it was my first time wearing it in public. After the fact, his friends (male and female) said to him that 1. it's weird that he was paying every time and it's not feminist (lol). His girl friend who he lives with, said that I seem stuck up cause of the bag.
- I think I should have just wore the bag and not mentioned it like it's normal for me. But I am still leveling up, a girl makes mistakes. I also thought it's a good idea to mention the fact that it was expensive so he knows what to expect.
-I haven't had to discuss 'who pays' out in the wild and I didn't really have a good answer when it came to it. I said that in my culture it's expected and I tried to make it clear that that's what I expect most of the time. I don't care what they said about me but I want to know how to clearly state my position on this and let the guy know from the beginning. So any advice on this is welcome? I guess the fact that he was trying to debate me on this means he's broke.